sunset photo by Chloe
I guess most people call certain calendar dates and hard days "triggers"; birthdays, anniversaries, holidays. Days where you feel the weight of life is heavier. For example, in July I dread Mark's upcoming deathiversary. Add to that issues at work, planning for retirement, loneliness, and just plain old blue days. So I gathered another list of helpful things - this one for moving through tough times and tricky dates.
*Acknowledge your emotions, allowing yourself to express sadness/frustration/anger in a healthy way. Crying is OK. Recognize what is true for you in the moment, without judgement. Offer yourself kindness and compassion. Remember that everyone struggles sometimes - this is our shared humanity.
*Focus on what you can control - break big problems down into smaller parts then determine the next best step and move forward. Sometimes life will feel like one long learning experience.
*Prioritize your health and self-care, seeking out support as needed. Maintain consistent routines for eating, sleeping, and how you spend your free time. Spend some time outside in the sun, in nature. Stay engaged with work at work, then leave it there when you go home. Avoid living in your phone.
*Practice gratitude daily and challenge your negative thoughts. Remind yourself that tough times are temporary.
*Stay true to yourself. Engage in activities and people that align with your values and goals. Protect your boundaries and avoid getting overstimulated by other people's negative energy - take a break from others when you need to.
Admittedly, this all sounds easier than it actually is.
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