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this sat in the hallway for 2 weeks
In the dream, I have a very big house with very big yards that seemed to be inside of the house. Another adult was observing me as I disciplined Grayson over breaking something in my bedroom a year ago and not telling me - and why was he even in there to begin with? It was a sort of blue thermostat/light switch on the wall. I told him that if he had told me it was broken I could have fixed it already. Dylan and Chloe were also nearby, but not saying anything. They all became young children. I started yelling at all of them, but they were not really paying attention and getting further away. Grayson hopped on his bike and started riding off and I had to call him back to continue discussing with him. That's where the dream ended.
I fully expect that I will have some sadness over the last one leaving home. I have a lot of angst over how the last couple of years have played out, particularly with Grayson. I'm not sure I was able to really help him, but I did provide a safe place for him to be while he figured out what he wanted and was ready to leave. All while doing my best at living my own adult life, with all of its struggles. None of them are "kids" anymore and its time for all of us to move on.
Just a dream - but this empty nest thing - its so real.
The year my youngest son moved out ( he was only 16) was also the same time my oldest granddaughter moved out. She lived with us on and off thru the years. The house felt SO empty and so did my heart. But I survived ( and the GD decided to move back because life out there is tough...and gran isn't).
ReplyDeleteI agree. The empty nest thing can be hard. Be kind to yourself.
Very good advice!
DeleteI don't think I've been able to reach a deep enough sleep to dream lately. Knee pain...ugh. For years I dreamed almost nightly about a family from the neighborhood I grew up in. Camping trips, being inside their house or walking past it. One night I woke up singing a song out loud that I associate with them. I rarely dream about my kids or grandkids. I wish I did. I love reading about your dreams.
ReplyDeleteThank you! Sometimes I can't determine whether or not they are nightmares...
DeleteWhen my kids moved out it was rough. It took us a long time to adjust to the quietness of the house. Of course, once we found the joy in our empty nest, one moved back home.
ReplyDeleteI had a few "boomerang" kids myself, but the last two...oof! Rough.
DeleteEmpty nest is real. It really hurts when it happens all at once. Within 2 years, both of my daughters married, my parents that lived a quarter mile away sold the homestead and moved to town and my other half left me for another woman. The next year the school across the street where I had finally got on after 10 years of trying, closed and moved to town. So the next year I decided to move away too.
ReplyDeleteDreams are very crazy even though I think they are trying to say something.
Oh, man that's a lot of change! Tell me your secret to not losing your mind. Seriously!
DeleteGina,
ReplyDeleteBoth my sons moved out within the same year..Thant was about 14 years ago and I was okay with having an empty nest...It was time for them to go and start their own lives and they did... Now since my husband passed away, I have the whole house to myself and I am good with it...It is sort of empowering being totally in charge of your life....Still trying to figure out this widowhood thing...
Hugs,
Deb
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