People who like to piss in your cornflakes

 I told someone that I had joined a wine club and the response was "don't ruin your liver", followed by

"just don't be a drunk and whatever you do don't get behind the wheel and drive".

Mark would've called this "pissing in your cornflakes".

Brigid and I will teleport?

It goes without saying that I am not on a mission to be a drunk nor ruin my liver.

But the issue here is having a Negative Nellie in my life who brings a certain slant to every endeavor of mine to live a varied and interesting life, full of new people and places.  I am a widow who is finding her way in this world as a single person for the first time in 39 years.  Let me live!

And not to justify, but the addition of the wine club satisfies a longing in me I didn't know I had.  Not just a reclaiming of visiting wineries and relaxing on a day off outside of my normal schedule, but a place to decompress and unwind doing absolutely nothing at all if I wish.  It was something I loved to do with Mark, but now I will make it my own.

I probably need to share far less with this person.  Vulnerability can have an upside, but also drawbacks.  And if you have a person like this in your life, you probably get what I mean.  It is OK for you to forge ahead with what brings you happiness and joy, regardless of what anyone else prefers. 

Its Ok to make a life that is separate and unique to you as you figure out who you are and what makes you jazzed about the day.

And its 100% OK to drive out to the country, put your feet up, and stare off into the distance or journal, with a glass of wine in your hand.